This one’s for the gentlemen - mostly the ones my age who still haven't gotten a clue... {Maybe I'll do one for the ladies later, but don't feel bad gals- this one's not especially intellectual. Plus it's for our benefit anyways} To tell a woman that she’s beautiful- incredibly complimentary. To be told that I am cute- somewhat complimentary, somewhat condescending. Wouldn’t give me too much of a warm feeling unless it were coming from my grandpa. This one can be hit and miss- usually received positively though. If you tell a woman she’s pretty…. Eh that’s dangerously vague, I’m talking borderline mediocre. It’s kind of like “nice.” Things like dresses and flowers are pretty. Context can hugely affect how this one goes over. Probably the most misused descriptor would be sexy. Don’t feel bad men, women misunderstand the word all too often as well. I would say it’s best to reserve this word for when you really know a woman has made the specific attempt to be sexy. Well, some ladies like to hear it all the time cuz they think Playboy is the height of female achievement – but since it’s not we can go ahead and assume those women are misguided in more than just this particular arena. Oh and I almost forgot gorgeous. It’s pretty strong, make sure you truly mean it or fake it really well if you say it. Moral of the story- most complimentary/easiest = beautiful. Be careful with the rest.
Monday, April 21, 2008
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I was just thinking this the other day! I get "cute" a lot- and sometimes even an "adorable." I certainly don't hate it, but I think I hear it so much that I've started playing up the "cute" and giving up on the "beautiful."
For some reason, I think all of the above are better than "hot."
I like your blog!
-Aidan
You are deffinetly right though. When someone uses's the word beautiful they mean it and its so powerful. It's such a big word and hard to say. With cute people can say it so fast so without any though. But when someone spits out that word beautiful and looks at you in your eyes. Yea, my heart melts! -Sarah
In the same respect, one must dress/act the way they wish to be described. If you act childish, of course you'll be called cute. Actually, I will go out of my way to call spoiled puling females cute at most. Cute doesn't mean attractive in my vocabulary.
In respect to the word gorgeous, the word does not mean the giver of the compliment is madly in love with the recipient. I'm sick of everyone putting that tag on it. There are women out there that are gorgeous, but a lot of the women I know like that I am satisfied with being nothing more than friends.
Compliments have gone insane lately, and I blame it on over-fulminating neuroticism. Words only make up 10% of the meaning behind them. The rest is tone and body language. Stop focusing so much on what people say, but more so on why they say it. Hidden motives don't really exist. When we say something is "hidden" as a social term, it usually means we are too afraid to confront or accept context. We all desire close relationships, but close relationships are the hardest.
I can explain a little more in detail sometime if you would like a better explanation of what I'm saying. Like I said, this only shows about 10% of the meaning. Tone and expression can only truly express a persons thought process.
-Mike (Mr. O'Sullivan)
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